When you are in a relationship with a woman, and things seem to be going good and you feel like you are doing your part to keep it together, it can be very traumatic to have her break up with you. When this happens, you might find yourself asking what happened, where did it go wrong? You might blame yourself, or you may be at a total loss as to why she decided to end the relationship with you. Anyway that you look at it, though, you are going to have to pick up the pieces and figure out what you are going to do next.
Men like to keep things to themselves, it’s just the way that most of us deal with any issues that are going on in our lives. Sometimes that is a good thing, and sometimes it is a bad thing. If you get trapped in your head thinking about your ex girlfriend, and you don’t get any feedback from anyone else, you can drive yourself crazy with all of the thoughts that seem to come out of nowhere.
So, she broke up with you, what are you going to do now?
Some guys react in anger and they get really mad at their ex girlfriend. They might even end up calling her up and saying things that they never would, just because they are in the heat of the moment. That’s definitely something that you want to avoid, no matter what it is that you decide to do. Many guys will come to the conclusion that what they want to do is to find out all of the reasons why she broke up with them. That can be somewhat productive, but it can also leave you just as mystified as you were before you asked.
Probably the most common thing that guys will want to do is to try and find a way to persuade their ex girlfriend to take them back. They beg, they barter, they try to do anything that comes to mind to try and win her back. But, they come from a really weak stance, because it is obvious that they are desperate to be back with her.
Whatever you do, you need to remain confident in yourself.
Probably the biggest damage that a failed relationship can do to a guy is to make him lose his confidence in himself. And it happens all of the time. A woman rejects a guy, or breaks up with him and next thing you know… he thinks that this is how it is going to work out with ALL women. Of course, that’s probably not the truth, but that’s what most guys usually end up thinking.
Whether you want to get your ex girlfriend back, or you want to be able to move on and find a new girlfriend, you have to remain confident in yourself. Just because one relationship ended, just because one woman did not want to work it out with you, it does not mean that the next one will be the same way. And it does not mean that you cannot find a way to get your ex girlfriend back if that is what you want to do.